Men
Do you know any really good men? Men that are servants, leaders, broken, empowered, loving, honest, dependant, strong?
They stand out in this world because they are so different from most of the men you come across. Guys, let me give you some inside knowledge, women know pretty much right away if you are a good man or not. Oh we might make concessions, and we might not want to admit it to ourselves, but we know, we can tell, and we yearn for those good men.
Not really quite sure why I’m even posting about this. I guess I’m just a little frustrated and disheartened because I see so many men that could be good men, should be good men, are Christian men and therefore have a higher expectation, but they aren’t good, in fact they are pretty disappointing.
Oh, I know good men. In fact, I am blessed to know many good men, good Christian men, but I also see the not-so-good and, well, that breaks my heart. I see men that aren’t involved in their children’s lives, who aren’t leaders, who aren’t servants, who aren’t living up to the calling God has placed on them. And this hurts my heart because I respect the role of a man so much.
Ok, so in the middle of writing this post (which by the way makes very little sense) I popped over to Rebekah’s blog. Thank you Lord for showing me the heart of a good man.
There really isn’t much I can say that isn’t expressed in this POST by Rebekah’s daddy.
I can’t get his words out of my heard. I can’t stop my heart from breaking for him.
The words from a song keep running through my head when I think of this type of man:
You are strong when you feel weak
In your brokenness complete
So guys out there, men, many of you are already GOOD MEN. I know this about you and I respect and honor you so much for this. Continue to be good men, continue to be weak, to be broken, to be leaders, to be loving, to be honest, to be true, to be servants, to be yielded to your Lord. Thank you for your example, thank you for being who God called you to be. Thank you for showing this girl that those men do exist in this world.
I'll be honest, this is the type of man I pray for. This is the type of man I ask God to let me marry. This is also the type of man I ask God to mold me and shape me to be the perfect companion and helper for. When you talk about the desire of a woman's heart, this is it, a good man who is yielded to the Lord. The rest is just bonus.
Also, please pray for Rebekah and her family, specifically her daddy today. Good men walk this earth, godly men, and they need our prayers.
posted by Katie @ 10:20 AM
14 Comments:
Kpinion. Katie's opinion. Jes agreed. Jgreed?
Ha Ha Jes!
Seriously, though, as hard as it is being a woman sometimes, I don't covet the role of a man. So much responsiblity. Such the need of character, such temptation. We're wired so differently. After reading Wild At Heart, it began to clue me in as to how different they are to be. Society tries to even the playing field, but we're not even, we're different. Woman is a new creature, made out of man, but different still the same.
Thanks again for putting together a collection of thoughts into a great post. We do need to pray for our men, for Godly men to stand up and be strong. And for women to support them in their role.
women was made at the climax of creation - god got all the kinks out.
I am so kidding.
I pray for many of the same qualities but today people's idea of good varies greatly.
I want godly character (which covers a lot, i.e. honesty etc), funny and sweet. I have learned that sweetness goes ALONG way.
Good post K.
can all four of you put together a "cliff notes on women" for me?
Thanks. I think it would just make it a whole lot easier for me.
Ha but then that would take away all the fun.
You have to learn by experience.
The same goes for girls with guys I think. You tell me.
yeah... cause Lord knows its been fun up to this point...
Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!
So pretty much either way I respond to that statement will get me in trouble.
I think we're all hoping the right person comes along for each of us-you know the right person hopefully in your heart-I'm kind of in the same boat as you-I hope fate kind of takes me to the right person-men and women really are not that much different in a lot of ways with dating, relationships
Strong men do still exist-sometimes it hard to find a girl with the same qualities that you are looking for in a guy, Katie-you have to go with your gut instinct, your faith with things like this-rent the movie Meet Joe Black-you will know when you meet someone with the qualities you are looking for when "lightning strikes"-ya fall head over heels for someone and think with your heart, not necessarily with your mind-your right with the things you are looking for as far as character traits, but sometimes love, or falling in love with someone is hard to explain.
Hmm, I think I need to make a statement here:
This post was never meant to be about guys in a romantic way. It was meant to be about good men, godly men. It came out of a moment of frustration with not-so-good men and then was counter balanced by Rebekah's dad.
I was really just trying to encourage ALL the GOOD MEN I know to press on.
Not sure if that makes any difference but I wanted my intentions to be known.
Sorry bout that-reread post and it seems a little more clear now
I thought about this post all night and all this morning.
~Jef
Jef - What did you come up with?
I found that women look for a set of qualities in men and men do the same looking in women. It's hard to be a woman, I would guess. There are lots of pressures all around as there are for men. Just in different areas.
I found that I don't always meet the standard and its a steep standard, but it needs to be met. But it's still hard to meet.
I found that fathers are the most influential determining factor in the characteristics you seek, but that we all have the ability to make our own choices despite our past.
I found that the heart is the most important place to look for these standards. Lots of men and women can fake it and often do. I would rather have someone hard on the outside, but soft-hearted on the inside.
I found that time and other things can change good people into people who don't look at the world the same way as they did when they were idealistic. It's called being jaded.
I found that the world is the world and you shouldn't expect much from it. I'm glad this will be the worst it gets for me. I couldn't take Hell.
~Jef
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